Recently in Love Category

On New Year’s Eve, I tweeted that if I wrote about that night at all, it wouldn’t be in my blog. But I do want to put down a conversation that’s been on my mind ever since that night, because at the time, it really bothered me. It bothers me less so now, and I feel like the process from there to here is worth sharing.Not only that, but I’ve been sick at home for two days with a vicious head cold and my brain is turning to mush.Simply put, I wish people would quit assuming that because I’m attractive and single and live in The Big City, that I want exactly what they want. I don’t. I never did. ... more

It’s 3:50am and I’m wide awake. Because I’m on vacation. I have five days left. It will only get worse. But now that I’m on a more normal sleep schedule (for me), I’m all kinds of productive. Today I loaded up the bike on my trunk rack and took it to the shop for an overdue tune up. I took out my car radio and installed an iPod adapter. I attached picture wire to the back of a door so I can hang it on the wall after I paint something on it. And then I put on the first coat of oil ground. I hope I only need one more coat. I hate oil ground. It’s nasty, sticky, terrible ... more

I would say it’s Christmas night, but since I’m on Mountain Standard Time, I really can’t. I haven’t been able to say it truthfully for half an hour, and probably much longer by the time I’m finished here. I’m not sure how important it really is, or how much it was ever really Christmas to begin with. What I can say truthfully is that I have a pain in my right temple, bad enough that I just took some five year old Tylenol that I found in a bathroom drawer. And then I got the hiccups. Altitude is a weird thing. There is no humidity here, and little oxygen. Denver is a mile high and that’s enough to cause us ... more

In the summer of 1992 I had a decision to make: Either get serious with this new guy, or go back to this old guy that I was still in love with but didn’t know how to have a relationship with. The possibility that I would choose the wrong guy both terrified and paralyzed me. The new guy was well aware of what I was faced with, and in his infinite patience he uttered probably the wisest words anyone has ever said to me: “Amy, there is no wrong decision. You just make a decision, and then you make it work as best you can.”He might as well have been speaking in tongues, because that statement made absolutely no sense ... more

“Decide that you want it more than you are afraid of it.” ~ Bill CosbyThat’s the attitude that got me to California. It wasn’t easy to do; in fact, it took about seven years to work up the courage and clear my life of all that was not working and holding me back. But I did it. It happened. I’m here, and it’s the best, bravest thing I ever did.The fact is, while you can go the rest of your life being content, contentment without joy is a cop-out. Real happiness takes courage. If you wait until you are not afraid to make a change, you will never make the change. Too many people see fear as a sign that ... more